Be Who You Want To Be

Shoot for the moon, even if you miss you'll land among the stars

Shoot for the moon, even if you miss you’ll land among the stars

My blog has been very quiet over summer whilst I’ve been enjoying the plentiful British sunshine this year but this post has been developing in my mind for a long time.. now on a rainy A-level results day it seems an apt post.

My aim is to inspire even one person to believe they can be who they want to be, do what they want to do and live the life they want to live.  All it takes is hard work, belief in yourself, courage despite your fears, and a dream.  It is not just a cliche that everyone is good at something.  Find your something and if you enjoy it then follow that path; it doesn’t matter if you don’t think it will make you a lot of money because it is more important to be happy.  Most importantly we must not be held back by our background, circumstances and fears.

For example, if you come from a poor household and none of your family have been to university but you want to be a vet, don’t be put off by fears of not being able to afford to go to university.  There are student loans available and when you are earning enough to start paying it back it is just like an extra tax for the privilege of going to university to be able to become a vet.

Les Brown says “The graveyard is the richest place on earth, because it is here that you will find all the hopes and dreams that were never fulfilled, the books that were never written, the songs that were never sung, the inventions that were never shared, the cures that were never discovered, all because someone was too afraid to take that first step, keep with the problem, or not determined to carry our their dream.”  We must not let this happen.

Live Your Life

Before the setting of the sun

Before the setting of the sun

As the financial year is drawing to an end it seems an appropriate time to reassess 2014 so far.  For me, life and dentistry are good.  I am really enjoying my new job and look back on my initial unhappiness as teething problems (sorry!) or adapting to change/settling in.  My hardest decision at the moment is whether to plan lots of exciting trips or buy a house.  But for many people I am close to it has been a very bad start to the year.

A few recent events have prompted me to question one of my favourite sayings “everything happens for a reason”… at the moment I am struggling to see the reason.  But one of my other favourite sayings has been reinforced and that is that “life’s too short”.  Life is too short to spend too long working for material goods you neither need nor can afford.  Life is too short to put off what you really want to be doing.  Life is too short to stress yourself with people who don’t even deserve to be an issue in your life.  Life is too short to carry on working in a job that is making you unhappy.  And life is too short to neglect the things that really matter like family and holidays.

Even working part-time, in the words of John Burroughs “I still find each day too short for all the thoughts I want to think, all the walks I want to take, all the books I want to read and all the friends I want to see.”

I would like to dedicate this blog post in loving memory of Anne Fellowes.


Make your positive thoughts flow like a river

Let it flow like a river

So it’s been 2 weeks since I became a part-time dentist… and I’m loving it!  My theory “do less of what you don’t enjoy and with time you’ll enjoy it” is already proving true as my inherent interest in dentistry is returning.  I’m generally enjoying my time in work now, being more productive, relishing the good patient interactions and seeing the challenge in the more difficult ones.  But the most exciting part is I’ve started working on my other projects.

I’ve realised making small simple changes can influence your general happiness and well being.  For me, leaving the house just 15 minutes earlier for work means my days can start out more organised and less stressful; finding the time to try to chat to my patients for a little longer where possible leads to higher job satisfaction; stopping those feelings of dread on a Sunday and enjoying the moment instead.

Although it can be very hard to think positive thoughts when you’re feeling down it really can be just a matter of changing your mindset.  To distract yourself get stuck in to a team sport, relax and recuperate with Yoga or Pilates, read articles about your passions, practice your hobbies or lose yourself in music or a good book!

“See the positive side, the potential, and make an effort.” – Dalai Lama

New Year, New Start

So here it is, the year 2014 and my first blog…

I’m embarking on this year having made the decision to work part-time as a dentist. As someone who feels trapped in a career they don’t like you repeatedly see the following phrase.. “do what you love and you’ll never work another day in your life”. I’m sure this is true but how achievable is it?

My theory that I’m testing out is “do less of what you don’t enjoy and with time you’ll enjoy it”. It’s well known that if you have/do too much of anything then you don’t appreciate it and it can become a drag. So here’s my advice, go part-time leaving you more time to do the things you really enjoy.. reading, painting, exercising, spending time with family or friends and personal projects. Yet you still have a steady income.

So maybe I’m in a very fortunate position to be able to do this without many bills to pay or any children to look after. I realise that for many working part-time just simply isn’t an option but for all those unhappy stressed out people in high paying, high pressure jobs I bet it is. How much money do you really need? It goes back to one of my favourite mantras “money doesn’t bring happiness”. Sure it can help but life’s too short to spend it unhappy.

I climbed the tree to see the world